2016 is almost over and we are all excited about 2017. Now is the perfect time for self-reflection, goal setting and New Year resolutions. Well, my resolution for 2017 is to be happy. As vague as it may sound that is all that I genuinely want.
A quote that inspired me during the beginning of 2016 was, “Happiness is a choice that you make every day”
I was pretty upset the time I read this quote. So I said aloud, “oh yeah that is bull. I did not choose to be so unhappy. I did not choose to fall sick. I did not choose to have such a bad day with those hurtful people.”
But, after almost 10 months I finally get it. I can choose to look at things in a positive manner.
- I can choose who I hang out with
- If I for whatever reason had to be with people who are not uplifting then, I can still choose if I want their negative vibes to affect me
- People hurt me only when I let them hurt me
- No more I am a victim mindset
Shifting the focus
Scenario: You are sick and bedridden
Normal response: Ahh life sucks!
Instead try this: I am so grateful for the comfort of this bed, pillows and blanket. I am so grateful for the medicines that are healing me. I deserved a break.
For a lot of people, this might not make any sense but, it is true that if you start looking at things in a positive way and tell yourself that you have control over your feelings and you can protect yourself from negative people and situations, you start seeing positive results.
For example, my friend always thought it was fine to still be friends with her ex who already was seeing another girl. It was not easy for her even after months and only when she finally declared that this guy is my ex and he has no role in my current life was she actually able to move on. Moral of this story is, to be honest with yourself about your feelings and make right choices that will fill you up with happiness. Please do not be untruthful to yourself just because you want the world to accept you as a happening person.
Another example is me myself. There is this person (very good friends with hubby) who always said the meanest things to me in a fun manner and me being the most sensitive person ever alive would cling on to the hurt words and cry and be grumpy and judge myself for days. This was the year I said enough is enough and told my hubby that I did not want to go the mean person’s house ever. Result? This mama is happy.
Just, look at what you are feeling around different people. Be with people who inspire you. Say goodbye to people who hurt you and constantly make you feel sad. Love yourself and respect yourself. Always have an attitude of gratitude.
So what are your New Year resolutions? Is being happy on your list? Do you have a story to share where you respected yourself enough to cut off negative people from your life? Please share.
Choose to be happy!
You deserve to be happy.
Wishing you all a very happy New Year my friends! I am truly grateful to each one of you for all the support you have given us in the past one year. And yes, happy 1 year to this lovely blog (Yes, it has been ONE YEAR since I started blogging). My sole aspiration was to spread positivity and inspiration and your support has helped me immensely to spread the light.